It wasn’t magic that I got used to the UBAC idea. I have been well trained by Amy, and she can be very persuasive when there is something she wants or feels strongly about. But what helped the most was being able to exchange a few emails with the husband of one of her friends in the Netherlands who had a C-section and then an unassisted birth with their second child. It was great to share fears and concerns and to get a wonderful perspective from somebody who had the same fears and then went through the whole process.
All I’d heard up until then was stories and anecdotes from the women’s point of view, by way of Amy. It was genuinely wonderful to get another husband’s insight and information from someone who had been there.